Relationships

Recipe for a Healthy Relationship

First off, it is important to ask yourself what you consider a real relationship to be.

You need to understand what your needs and desires are from another person, 

and what you are willing to give them. This way, you can see early in your first 

dates, if you wish to continue and work towards a future together, and if the other

 person feels the same of course.

Once you have decided to have an official relationship, you both need to

 remember what brought the two of you together in the first place. For 

instance, what attracted you to each other both physically and emotionally?

 What do you admire about his or her personality? This will help not taking

 the other for granted, which can often happen after two people have

 been together for a long time. This does not mean the love is fading, but

 it does mean that there is lack of effort. People tend to get lazy after

 a while, because they feel comfortable and safe. This problem can be

 solved when both people are willing to make the time and effort. Read 

also our Love Pullution article.

Everyone is independent in their own beliefs and ideas about things, so

 never expect a person to always see things your way. However, it

 is important to have similar expectations out of a relationship, if you wish

 to avoid frequent arguments. Look for things like whether or not it is 

important for the both of you to see each other everyday, or have sex often.

 While seeing each other on a daily basis seems wonderful and healthy to 

some people, others may feel smothered and need space to have some 

alone time. Or if sex is on the top of your list, but is not on your partners,

 you might want to consider that, unless you do not mind waiting or taking

 care of yourself once in a while depending on how long you have to wait!

Patience is one of the main keys to a healthy relationship. There are times

 when our partner will not respond in a way in which is pleasing to us, but this

 does not mean we have to take it so seriously or personally. Always slow 

down, take a deep breath and think of reasons why your partner may 

be acting a certain way. Assuming and jumping to conclusions is always

 an unhealthy step to take because it shows your partner that they are not

 entitled to act freely and they feel attacked, not to mention it shows that you 

automatically assume the worst of them. Give your partner some time and 

let them know that you will be there for them when they are ready to talk. No

 matter what the situation may be, patience is golden in a relationship, unless

 your partner never wants to discuss matters with you (which would mean you

 need counseling or leave the relationship).

Honesty is also at the top of everyone's list when it comes to what people want 

out of a relationship. A person needs to know that they can trust their mate because

 it builds a zone of safety and comfortableness around them. They need to know that

 they can at least rely on their loving partner to tell them the truth, no matter what.

 Being human means NOT being perfect, which means we will make mistakes.

 Now, we should not let that fact lead us to making mistakes we already know are 

wrong ahead of time. If your partner deliberately makes mistakes or you knowingly

 make mistakes, it shows that you or your partner lacks respect and care for the.

 other.This is unhealthy for the relationship. What is healthy however, is realizing 

 that the mistake you committed is a mistake. You or your partner need to know 

that  what they did was wrong and they need to feel the sympathy for what they did. 

Once you or partner have realized this, you can then figure out a way of how 

you will confess your wrong doings to the other.